How to Achieve Goals while juggling life?
I have goals and dreams, but how am I supposed to achieve them while raising a young family? While juggling life, achieving goals will be your finest act as you look back and watch your life story play out.
Here you will learn the 5 most important things to know when trying to accomplish goals.
It will not be easy.
But if we are honest with ourselves, life isn’t easy whether you are pursuing goals or not.
Yes, there are beautiful, blissful seasons. However, having a full human experience means there will be hard things that come your way too. Like gut-wrenching, bring you to your knees, HARD things.
The other day I was in my cool mom car, AKA minivan, driving down the road with what felt like a million little kids in the back seat. These kids are smart. As if they coordinated days ago, they all started crying and needing something at the same time. No one missed their cue.
The light ahead was turning yellow (maybe it was already yellow). As I said, a lot was going on at that moment. And with my frazzled mind, I needed to make a quick decision.
Do I slam on the breaks or continue through the yellow light?
What may seem like an obvious choice now, at the moment, took several milliseconds to calculate if continuing to drive or slamming on the breaks was the safest option for that particular situation.
Sometimes life is like a yellow light. The trick is knowing when to keep going and when to put your foot on the break. It doesn’t mean you’re destination or goals need to change. It just means that you have an opportunity to stop and take 30-seconds to breathe and get grounded again.
Gaining momentum can be one of the hardest parts of achieving goals. You might be scared that if you stop now, you might not keep going.
However, if you can stay focused on the goal and minimize distractions, you will set yourself up for success no matter how many yellow lights get in your way.
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I would like to believe that most of us would be a lot further along if no distractions were frazzling our minds. In a perfect, unrealistic world where everything goes exactly how we planned, we could probably get a lot done. How nice!
“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” -Tony Robbins
What are some of the distractions that affect how we can achieve goals? What is keeping you from your goal?
- young kids
- special needs children
- job loss
- over worked
- blended family
- personal addiction
- mental health
- natural disaster
- loved ones addiction
- health issues
- grieving a loss
- quarantine life from Covid-19
Every single one of these experiences is packed full of emotion. Honor and accept that these are what make us human. There will be moments in life where the best you can do is to wake up. Be patient with yourself.
You are right where you are supposed to be.
When you are ready, you will feel the urge to move on and keep going. The trick is to keep going. Don’t let these distractions be the red light that never changes green again.
Turn your distractions and excuses into motivation, to do better, to be better, and to achieve the desires of your heart.
5 ways to help you mentally prepare to achieve goals
1- Get Back to Reality
Name the game! It is easier to play the game when you know what the game is.
Getting mad at the yellow light doesn’t change the fact the light is yellow. When you can call the situation for what it is. You will then be able to make a plan to move forward when possible.
Falling into the trap of thinking you are the only one having to do hard things won’t serve you in the long run. There is comfort in knowing you are not alone. Use the community as a tool to help you feel connected to other mommas in similar circumstances.
One of my favorite sayings I heard years ago was, have your pity party, then get off the pot. If you sit there too long, you only get a ring around the bum.
2-Walk (or Crawl) Before You Run
What you’re going through is hard. Like really hard! You can’t fake some hits. There will be times when life will knock you down.
Be kind to yourself.
You don’t have to start running again.
Even if you were running before you got hit, sometimes the best thing you can do is give it your personal best.
Nevertheless, get back up! You are strong and can handle whatever the road is ahead.
Walk. Even crawl if you have to. Just keep moving. You are not stopped forever, but just a small moment.
3- Don’t Compare
Your goals might be the same, but your journey will be different.
Comparing yourself to others will rob you of the simple, beautiful truth that we all have something invaluable to offer through our differences.
Don’t get caught up with trying to be like anyone else. You are not them, thank goodness, because we need YOU! We need your face, your experiences, and your personality.
Be brave enough to be different, and you will see that the very thing you were trying to hide is what will connect you to those around you.
4- Be Kind and Patient With Yourself
Why is it ok to talk bad about ourselves? It seems like a given that we shouldn’t talk bad about others, but there are no rules when it comes to ourselves.
There is a difference between self-defeating talk and being realistic with your strengths and weaknesses. Spoiler alert, we ALL have strengths and weaknesses.
Give yourself the love you need to keep working on achieving your goals. When goals become a punishment for what you are not or what you should be, it sets a shaky foundation that usually doesn’t last long.
It is important to love yourself first, the imperfect way you are, and then make goals to enhance your life.
Is there something in your life that is not exactly where you hoped it would be? That’s ok! We are all there! Remember, it’s not the destination but the journey that you will find strength and growth. So be patient with yourself and the roadblocks that come along the way.
5- Don’t Forget Where You Are Going
People don’t achieve goals by accident. Having a clear picture of your goal will help you stay focused when you are tempted to fall back into convenient habits.
Getting stopped at a yellow light doesn’t mean you have to turn left and get ice cream. Every choice you make will either get you closer or further away from your ultimate destination.
Remembering where you are going is vital for achieving your goals.
Don’t let trials or detours be why you get lost; let them be the motivation to keep fighting.
There will be a point when you look back and realize every distraction or hard hit was creating a part of the story you will tell when you get to reach the finish line.
Life is beautifully simple and yet deep and complex with all the emotions that make us human.
When we set out to achieve our goals, we might. We WILL come across roadblocks and situations where we will need to make those quick millisecond calculations best for the people in our car and us.
Achieving goals while juggling life is a beautiful balancing act that takes grace and focus. By staying in reality, not comparing your journey to others, knowing your limits, being patient, and keeping your eye on the prize, you will find that no matter where you are, you right where you should be.
Keep walking momma! One step in front of the other. You Got This!
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